An Australia mother confronts a teacher who belittles her pre-school son – with the help of her blog community.
PottyMouthMama had a challenging experience with her young son’s pre-school teacher the other day. I would’ve growled at the teacher, gnashing teeth until she backed into a corner crying, but that is a learned skill, I wasn’t born with it. Though fighting with my little sister helped! From PottyMouthMama:
Yesterday when I dropped the Doctor off to pre-school I got chatting with the teachers. One of them started telling me about how the previous day the Doctor was telling another child how to do something. I listened to her thinking, yep that is standard four year old behaviour – they like to talk, they like to help, and they like to feel useful.She then continued to tell me how she told him to ‘stop being a know-it-all’. And then she decided that that was a perfectly apt name for him. ‘Know-it-all Noah’. And that that was her new name for him.I stood there not really knowing what to say. I am not good at confrontation. And I had mixed feelings.Here was someone who I had entrusted to look after my child. To care for him. To boost him. To support him.
And here was that same person verbally bullying him.
She got 46 comments from people. All of them urging her to contact the school. From Kirsty (coincidentally from around Willunga, where I’m from!)
That is just horrible.
My advice (coming from somebody who’s bestie is a teacher) is to tell her that you don’t think it is appropriate that she say things like that to your son or about him and that you are going to speak to her boss about it.
It’s important that you do this because she could be bullying some of the other kids as well.
Words hurt. Sometimes more than actions. I know so don’t leave it. Our Smalls can’t stand up for themselves so it’s important that we do it for them.
She is doing confronting the school, despite being terrified. Community support is changing her behaviour. Supporting a big ol’ wuss 😛 turning into a roaring mother lion protecting her brood.
We often are told that blogs and social media don’t change the world. That it’s just people wasting time on the ‘net. But what if the grand revolution is one blog post, one comment, one mother changing her behaviour at a time? And if there were enough people changing a small part of their actions due to social media, would that ripple into a huge wave of change?
I know that I said articles (blog posts) with comments is not community. And in the main it’s not. The leaders are not badged, the community can only respond, not initiate. Newspapers make the same mistake. A series of articles with comments turned on is not community. But sometimes it is.